Darting is the act of getting to know each other. It is an act of asking questions (most times not question that requires a yes or no answers but open-ended types) and receiving response(s). This act has has levels and grows as mutual understanding and commitment is established. The knowing can be a lifetime education and exploration of the beliefs of your friend or partner. It oftentimes involves intention and attention to behaviors, speeches and actions as action speaks louder than words. Humans can lie with their mouth, but it is close to impossible to lie in actions, lifestyle and behavior. This indeed involve flexibility and commitments. Flexibility because some actions can be misinterpreted. Commitment because you may need two to three or even more actions before you can conferm motive(s).
Guesses, false hopes, and assumptions are some of the enemies to this act we are talking about. Disappointment emanates and grows from the fertile ground of assumption(s).
One of the aims of exploration, asking open-ended questions in order to know your friend is because you value them hence it is important to really hold in high esteem or respect the friendship otherwise why should it start in the first place? Other reasons of this quest is that we want to share in their feelings (their joy or probably pain). The last reason is just because we want to understand them.
It will be my pleasures if you join me next time for a fresh episode. Till then don't forget to keep a healthy relationship.
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